What Lesbians Can Expect When Inseminating
by Stephanie Berman
Since more lesbians than ever before are having babies through home insemination, it is important to take a look at what to expect when inseminating. Insemination is different than other procedures, and by knowing what to expect you will be prepared for everything that comes your way. First, understand that there are a lot of ups and downs that come with trying to conceive. When you decide to try at home insemination, prepare yourself for the roller coaster ride that will ensue. For some women, getting pregnant takes longer than it does for others, and you need to prepare yourself for the failures that will lead to the success.
During this stage, it is essential for both partners to support each other. There can be disappointments on the way to success, and you need a support system in place so you can handle the emotional ride you will go on.
One way to handle the emotions that come with trying to conceive is focusing on the intimacy that comes with at home insemination. Focus on the fact that you and your partner are trying to make a baby. At home insemination is the most intimate way of conception for lesbian couples, and that intimacy can push you through the difficult times.
During this time, you can take your energy and really work toward bonding together as a family. By bonding together as a family from the beginning, you will create a strong unit that will better your relationship with your partner and your child. Families are not created with the birth of a child, they are created through bonds. You want to strengthen your bond during the conception process so it will spill through to your role as a parent.
Once the conception process is over, you will get to go through the joys of being pregnant. You will feel all of the emotions, from the amazement of having created life to the excitement of starting a family and being able to do it together.
Unfortunately, you will also have to deal with some potential negative criticism. After you conceive, be prepared for ignorance when you go out in the world. Make sure you keep your partner included in the process, even when the rest of the world wants to exclude her. People in the world might refer to you as the mother and your partner as some outsider, but it is your job to let your partner, and the rest of the world know that both of you are mothers.
You cannot educate the world in one day, or even with one child, but you can make your mark. Educate the people around you so they know both you and your partner are the mothers of the child. Insemination is a great way to bring you and your partner together while conceiving. If you both want to be a part of the process, look into at-home insemination as your best option. Do not allow society or the ignorance of others to keep you from having the amazing and wonderful experience of having a baby and a family.
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